If you’re moving away or maybe you and your friends are parting ways to go off to different Uni’s. Staying in touch IS possible. Here are some things that helped me to avoid drifting from my friends when I left to go to another college instead of staying on at our high school sixth form college.
MAKE AN EFFORT
This sounds simple and it is. If neither of you make an effort to stay in touch, guess what? You won’t. Make the effort to send the odd text, comment on their Instagram post, swipe up to their snaps, just be visible and present in their life. When your home, call them to let them know and arrange plans. If you are at different Uni’s or live far apart it might be a nice idea to visit each other and go on a night out or just have a night in and a catch up. Just make that effort and if you want to stay in touch you both will.
SET STUFF IN STONE
When I finished high school and moved to college I was the only one inn my friendship group to move on to another college whilst the rest stayed at our high school sixth form. It’s so easy to say, ‘Aw we’ll do stuff all the time’. And it really is possible to keep doing things together but try pencil things in and set stuff in stone. That way it won’t just be an empty promise, you will have actual plans, whether it’s a night out or a shopping trip make sure you arrange to do do stuff properly and you will.
CALL THEM
If you know me well, you will know I am the world’s slowest and worst replier. I’ve fallen into a weird and inescapable habit of opening a message, processing the information and then forgetting to reply. So for me the best way for me to have a long and good catch up is to call or face time someone. It’s old school, but by far the best way to have a proper conversation. Make sure to call your mates every now and again just to check up on them or tell them some news, just genuinely show you care about staying in touch.
BE HONEST
If you feel you’re putting in all the effort and not getting the same in return. Be open and honest with your friend instead of just calling it a day and giving up. There might be a good reason they haven’t been in touch. Sometimes life really does just get in the way and that’s totally normal. Just be honest and talk it through and accept that not all friendships will last forever and if they’re a true friend it will work itself out, if not a natural drift is normal and okay.
This sounds simple and it is. If neither of you make an effort to stay in touch, guess what? You won’t. Make the effort to send the odd text, comment on their Instagram post, swipe up to their snaps, just be visible and present in their life. When your home, call them to let them know and arrange plans. If you are at different Uni’s or live far apart it might be a nice idea to visit each other and go on a night out or just have a night in and a catch up. Just make that effort and if you want to stay in touch you both will.
SET STUFF IN STONE
When I finished high school and moved to college I was the only one inn my friendship group to move on to another college whilst the rest stayed at our high school sixth form. It’s so easy to say, ‘Aw we’ll do stuff all the time’. And it really is possible to keep doing things together but try pencil things in and set stuff in stone. That way it won’t just be an empty promise, you will have actual plans, whether it’s a night out or a shopping trip make sure you arrange to do do stuff properly and you will.
CALL THEM
If you know me well, you will know I am the world’s slowest and worst replier. I’ve fallen into a weird and inescapable habit of opening a message, processing the information and then forgetting to reply. So for me the best way for me to have a long and good catch up is to call or face time someone. It’s old school, but by far the best way to have a proper conversation. Make sure to call your mates every now and again just to check up on them or tell them some news, just genuinely show you care about staying in touch.
BE HONEST
If you feel you’re putting in all the effort and not getting the same in return. Be open and honest with your friend instead of just calling it a day and giving up. There might be a good reason they haven’t been in touch. Sometimes life really does just get in the way and that’s totally normal. Just be honest and talk it through and accept that not all friendships will last forever and if they’re a true friend it will work itself out, if not a natural drift is normal and okay.
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